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Navigating Valentine’s Day

No Matter Where You Are in Your Relationship Journey



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As Valentine's Day approaches, the world seems to fill with heart-shaped chocolates, bouquets of roses, and images of perfect couples celebrating their love. While many find joy in this celebration, it can also be a challenging time for those facing difficulties in their relationships or those who are navigating the complex journey of self-love. At this time of year, it's crucial to approach ourselves and our situations with extra care and compassion.


The Impact of Valentine's Day on Mental Health

Valentine's Day can amplify feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, or relational discontent. Whether you're in a relationship that feels strained or you're grappling with feelings of loneliness, this literally heart-shaped holiday can act as a magnifying glass for personal insecurities and societal pressures. The emphasis on romantic love can lead to comparisons, highlighting what one perceives to be missing in their life or relationship.


How to Alleviate Discomfort on Valentine’s Day

No matter how you are feeling as Valentine’s Day approaches, what it feels like is really uncomfortable. It does not sit well with ourselves when we are beating ourselves up in our relationships, feelings stressed in that relationship, or having a challenge with not being in a relationship.

  • Shift the Focus: Remind yourself that love is not limited to romance. Celebrate love in all its forms—friendship, family, pets, and most importantly, self-love.

  • Friends - they are some of our biggest supports and can help prop you up during this time;

  • Pets - these wonderful furry beings live so much in the moment, no matter the animal, your pet(s) will be there for you on this day;

  • Self-love - in a world that feels out of our control at times, improving and focusing on ourselves is something we are able to do.

  • Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that nurture your well-being and bring you joy. Whether it's a hobby, a relaxing bath, or reading a good book, prioritize what makes you feel good.

  • Limit Social Media: Social media platforms are flooded with images and stories that might not reflect your current reality. It's okay to take a break and disconnect if it helps preserve your mental health. This is a time to lean into what speaks to your situation and limiting social media is a great practice of self-care.

  • Reach Out: Spend time with loved ones who uplift you. If you're feeling isolated, consider joining a community event or a group activity where you can meet new people. You might be surprised by what you find!

  • Reflect and Set Intentions: Use this day as an opportunity to reflect on your personal growth and set intentions for the kind of relationships you want to cultivate in your life, including the one with yourself.


How Online Therapy Can Help

Navigating the complexities of relationships or personal feelings around holidays like Valentine's Day can be overwhelming. Speaking to an online therapist can offer support in several ways:

  • Personalized Guidance: A therapist can provide personalized strategies to manage feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, or relationship stress, helping you understand and navigate your emotions more effectively.

  • Safe Space to Express Feelings: Therapy offers a confidential space to express and explore your feelings without judgment, allowing for healing and growth.

  • Build Healthy Relationship Skills: For those in challenging relationships, therapy can help you develop communication and conflict resolution skills, fostering a healthier relationship dynamic.

  • Strengthen Self-Love: Therapists work with you to build self-esteem and promote self-compassion, crucial elements for a healthy relationship with yourself and others.


Valentine's Day can be a reminder to cherish and nurture the most important relationship you'll ever have—the one with yourself. It's okay to seek support. Online therapy provides a flexible and accessible way to receive guidance and support, helping you navigate not just Valentine's Day but any day that comes your way.


In this season of love, let's remember to extend compassion and care to ourselves and those around us. If you're finding this period challenging, know that you're not alone, and help is available.


Better Minds Counseling & Services offers individual therapy and couples therapy online. We have therapists who are experts in being guides into growing your relationship (whether with your partner or for yourself) to be what you imagine it to be. Check out our therapists today, most have immediate availability and offer a free introductory session.


In Pennsylvania, accessing therapy online means you can find support from the comfort of your own home, at times that suit you and your partner the best. It's a flexible, accessible way to get the help you during your online couples therapy appointments. No matter where you are in Pennsylvania, such as if you are looking for therapy in Philadelphia, therapy in Pittsburgh, therapy in Montgomery County, therapy in Bucks County, therapy in Delaware County, therapy in Lancaster County, therapy in Chester County, and beyond!


Blog Disclaimer - These posts are not meant to treat, diagnose, or serve as a replacement for therapy.  If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health emergency, please contact your local crisis center or dial 911.  Here are more immediate resources as well.

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